There’s always so much anxiety and excitement when you become a mom and when you’re a first time mom it comes with so much pressure and expectations but I just thought I should share 5 Things you probably don’t know about becoming a mom.
1. IT’S AN EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER:
Your emotions are on another level when you are a mom and you don’t have full control over these because one moment you could be HAPPY that your baby is finally sleeping more hours and that means you get to sleep the next your baby can cry uncontrollably and you don’t seem to be able to comfort them enough to calm down and you become an emotionally wreck because of this. One thing to bear in mind though it’s okay to feel whatever you are feeling on this rollercoaster it’s allowed just don’t dwell on the down side of your emotions.
2. MOM GUILT
Mom guilt can only be fully understood once you’re a mom but it really is this major guilt you feel for leaving your child to do something you feel like your guilty of murder or something it’s something that’s really hard to deal with and I know this when I went back to work the first few weeks it felt like hell all I could think of was feelings of guilt and torture but it gets better with time it doesn’t go away you just learn to manage it with time.
3. POSTPARTUM RECOVERY ISN’T EASY
Having a baby is a beautiful experience but recovering from it postpartum can be very challenging and it’s something not a lot of people talk about because after birth all focus is on your baby and yet your body just went through a major change.
Whether you give birth naturally or via C-section both recovery periods can be very hard on a new mom.
4. YOUR LIFE CHANGES BEYOND MEASURE.
Someone is now totally dependent on you once you become a mom. Your way of thinking changes, your view of life changes because of your child. It’s a beautiful change though that you will easily get the hang of after sometime.
Before you have kids, you really have no idea and nobody can fully prepare you for the magnitude that your life is about to change. Every decision you make, every outing you take, every moment you’re awake is going to be affected by your new baby in some way. It’s not something you can comprehend until its happening.
5. SELF-CARE IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS CARING FOR A NEW BABY.
Once you have a child all you do is focus on your new child which is great but unfortunately as a mom you tend to easily neglect yourself once you are a new mom but you need to take care of yourself it’s so important because If you are down you won’t be able to take care of your child.
You have to make time for yourself, to take care of yourself in whatever way you need to and take some time away from your child to build and pamper yourself because yes your life has changed but your wellbeing is so important.
6. YOU’RE GOING TO LEARN SO MUCH.
Yes even if you’re new mom or an old mom in terms of having previous children they surely can teach one so much about life.
They’ll teach you that every minute of life is to be enjoyed and that simple tasks like the dishes can wait until later if that means you have one more precious moment together.
7. SLEEP IS A MYTH
Yes you saw right you’ll never have proper sleep patterns anymore. In the beginning of having a new born you literally are most likely to be awake every 2-3 hours and even after that while your child grows older your sleeping can never be normal again.
I remember me personally in my first 3 months wow it hit me hard the amount of lack of sleep you get but you end up just getting used to it and you learn to live off little sleep.
It’s a whole new level of exhaustion but it’s so worth every minute of lost sleep. I remind myself of that as I pour my third cup of coffee of the day…
8. A FED BABY IS BEST WHETHER BREASTFED OR BOTTLEFED
I think we all know the importance of breastfeeding and the benefits thereof. I personally breastfed my daughter and still am but I know so Many moms who had planned to do so and they couldn’t and society makes them feel so bad about bottle feeding their children and what they don’t understand is that most moms already feel bad that they can’t breastfeed their children and you reminding them isn’t helping. What’s most important is a child who’s FED, that’s what we need to focus on.
9. EVERYONE FEELS THEIR ADVICE IS BEST
It’s surprising most people always have advice when coming to children even those who don’t have children and everyone wants you to implement their advice. My take is to yes take advice but you decide what you end up implementing on your child because yes you know BEST for your child even if your first time mom you know BEST!!
10. IT CAN FEEL LONELY AT TIMES
Being a new mom can feel extremely isolating. For most of us, we go from working and socializing full time to being confined to the same four walls day after day. Suddenly you’re thrust into this new role of caretaker and all you have for socializing is this tiny little human who can only communicate their wants and needs via high pitch death scream. It’s important to know everyone feels this way and there are so many mom groups you can turn to for help and support. Surrounding yourself with a tribe of moms you can reach out to, can make the world of difference. Even if it’s just communicating via text or through social media, moms need each other and I guarantee there’s someone feeling exactly how you do right now.
With all this said motherhood is a beautiful journey I’m on it and love it totally yes the journey has both ups and downs but it’s mostly so fulfilling to be a mom.
I just wanted to highlight some things for new moms or ladies who are yet to become moms about what to expect that I didn’t typically know I hope you can take from this and learn from this.
These quote sums it all up of what I think of motherhood
“I believe the choice to become a mother is the choice to become one of the greatest spiritual teachers there is.”-Oprah Winfrey
“Having children just puts the whole world into perspective. Everything else just disappears.” —Kate Winslet