Becoming a mom is such a beautiful journey and it can be very taxing on a mom I know this for sure. Just because you are a mom doesn’t mean you can’t achieve your dreams that you had before you were pregnant yes being a mom is very consuming but you can still follow your dreams and here are a few ways I am currently using to follow my dreams and still being a mom.
Firstly I will look at why you should follow your dreams as a mom:
1. They will make your life worth living
Your dreams are what can get you through even the worst days. If you are struggling, your dreams are your reason to keep going. They are why you wake up in the morning and try again. They are what makes your entire life worth living. Without our dreams, we are nothing.
Being a mom has good and bad days and when you get to the bad days because you are in pursuit to follow your dreams that will make your journey worth it if you can remember your dreams.
2. You’ll meet other dream seekers.
When you are motivated and excited about pursuing your dreams, you’ll attract other people who have the same values and interests.
The more you surround yourself with high achievers, the further you’ll go. Then, when times get tough, and it’s hard to keep going, your friends will motivate you to continue achieving.
3. You can be an inspiration to others.
If you decide to go and pursue your dreams, you will give hope to others who want to do the same. You can serve as their example and their reason why they should give it a try. You can help them, coach them, and encourage them to keep going.
4. It will make YOU proud.
Even better than making your parents proud, you will be proud of yourself! Your confidence will rise, and you’ll enjoy the excitement and the adrenaline that comes with doing something you’ve always wanted to do.
Then we will now look at ways in which you can balance motherhood and following my dreams below:
1. Don’t stop dreaming
Just because you a mother now ,don’t stop dreaming how you did the way you did before you became a mom. Remind yourself of how you use to dream and continue to do so deliberately. I know personally I had a lot of dreams before I became a mom and I had to keep telling myself that my dreams are still valid and that I still want to choose them.
2. Choose your priorities well
Parenting is all-consuming. We can spend every moment caring for our children and there would be plenty to fill our time. In order to follow your dreams, it’s important to choose your priorities well. Ask, “What is most important?” Then once you choose your priorities, be diligent on cutting out what didn’t make the list.
Caring for our children’s needs and spending quality time with them should always be at the top of our priorities, but there are so many other things that can be cut. You don’t have to sign your child up for every after-school activity or enrichment program, no matter how cool they sound or how much you believe it will benefit your child’s future. Let your children pick one favourite activity and stick with that. Let the rest go. A wise parent is actually one who teaches their kids to focus most on the priorities in their lives, too
3. Make use of fringe time
Remember the work needed to follow your dreams doesn’t have to happen between 9-5. Maybe you’re a work-outside-the-home mom who is trying to put food on the table. Maybe you’re a work-at-home-mom who finds the hours caring for kids filled to the brim. In both cases, think outside the box.
My best time to do things is after work before I go home or after my daughter is sleeping since I am a Woking mom.
If you spend 30-60 minutes a day on planning your dreams—and taking small steps to execute them—the effort will add up! As the months pass, you’ll find yourself stepping toward your dreams in a steady motion. And as you build momentum, it’ll be easier to be motivated to get real work done in these fringe hours.
Realize that you don’t need to do it all at once
Following your dreams doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Instead, it can be “this” now and “that” later. Maybe you can’t open a boutique, but perhaps you can start an Etsy store. Maybe you don’t have to launch that epic historical novel, but you can start a blog or podcast. Small goals accomplished are a great foundation to build on in the future.
Give yourself permission
Pursing your dreams is worth your time and effort. Don’t feel guilty! Remember those daydreams you had as a child? They were there for a reason. They were planted in your heart for a purpose. They’re important not only for you, but for your world and for your kids.
When kids see their mom following her dreams they will grow up and do the same. Do you want your kids to use their gifts and talents and step out to do great things? Good! Then be a living model, a visual example. Making the effort to see your dreams come to life will show your children how to do the same.
I hope the above article helps moms to start by remembering your dreams and motivates you to follow your dreams even if you are mom.